Bismillah,
or shall I say, "Belajar dan Masuk Dapur"?
For women, these two routines come together. Why?
Seeking knowledge is everyone's need/duty
By saying this, women shall not be excluded from accessing education. Long time ago, women weren't allowed to go to school. Neither know any basic alphabets, nor how to count any numbers beyond their imagination. All that matters was they have enough ability to count how many chicken eggs in the barn for breakfast for the next morning. Nevertheless, men were encourage to go to school. A true fact but a very unfortunate truth, boys in their young age are tend to be more rebellious for something that they actually don't want to do, don't want to do. Even so, this statement is not applicable to all, because there's a lot of men out there manage go further with their education. Let's go back to the issue of education for women; just imagine if this still happened today, isn't it an obvious discrimination?
As for men, I believe they have at least want their wife to be able to teach the kids with something. Occupy them with a glimpse of the real world; what's life is all about. For example, if your kid asked you this:
How this beautiful flower grow up mom? does it drink water like I do?
I f you don't know basic science, how would you be able to answer this? kan?
What about teaching your kids basic math like 1+1 = 2? You won't be teaching your kids to tap on your iphone to know that!
So yes, women indeed need education and to be educated.
House chores not an ultimate women's job
To begin with, let me remind all guys out there, the Prophet SAW did help his wives to do house chores. What happen today? It looks like the duty is permanently stamp on women's shoulder. Yes, I agree that wives have to entertain the husband, but don't enslave them. You both can work together to do house chores, cooking and gardening, isn't that sweet? I believe that's good enough for women, men don't have to try so hard to win over women's heart with promises which they don't even know if they can do them.
Okay, so let see another problem with the so-called women's duty:
Now that they are allowed to further their studies, some parents are just so reluctant to let their daughters to decide their on their own lives. Some opt to study as far as they could, to achieve their dream. Some too, opt not to just study but also would like to have families while they are studying. Well of course, parents will be more than happy to let their daughters to study and succeed in life, but now they see marriage within the study time as a problem. They thought marriage will deviate their daughters from the route of success. It is true to some extend, but why doubt your daughters' potential if they can have pretty good handle on study and social life?Isn't this ironic when you set women free to be educated, but you pretty much refrain them from thinking the best way to live their life?
There's nothing impossible in life, it is just I am possible!
You know your kids well, you raised them good, believe in them! If you think they are just blinded by the false hope and deceiving world, tell them the truth, stop them from ruining their life. However, if you know they are capable on handling both 2 different sides of world, why stop them? why demotivating them? Yes, education is important, but what they feel about life is important too.
So yes, women are not just belajar, but they masuk dapur too and these go together!
I wrote too much today and here I put the end to my post today.
Disclaimer:
Whatever I wrote today does not reflect my life story. This is based on what I heard, what I see.
Wallahu'alam.
