Tangis dan Tawa

"Adakalanya kita perlu menangis supaya kita sedar yang hidup ini bukan sekadar untuk ketawa" - quote

Belajar Masuk Dapur

Bismillah,

or shall I say, "Belajar dan Masuk Dapur"?
For women, these two routines come together. Why?

Seeking knowledge is everyone's need/duty
By saying this, women shall not be excluded from accessing education. Long time ago, women weren't allowed to go to school. Neither know any basic alphabets, nor how to count any numbers beyond their imagination. All that matters was they have enough ability to count how many chicken eggs in the barn for breakfast for the next morning. Nevertheless, men were encourage to go to school. A true fact but a very unfortunate truth, boys in their young age are tend to be more rebellious for something that they actually don't want to do, don't want to do. Even so, this statement is not applicable to all, because there's a lot of men out there manage go further with their education. Let's go back to the issue of education for women; just imagine if this still happened today, isn't it an obvious discrimination?

As for men, I believe they have at least want their wife to be able to teach the kids with something. Occupy them with a glimpse of the real world; what's life is all about. For example, if your kid asked you this:

How this beautiful flower grow up mom? does it drink water like I do?
  
I f you don't know basic science, how would you be able to answer this? kan?
What about teaching your kids basic math like 1+1 = 2? You won't be teaching your kids to tap on your iphone to know that!

So yes, women indeed need education and to be educated.

House chores not an ultimate women's job
To begin with, let me remind all guys out there, the Prophet SAW did help his wives to do house chores. What happen today? It looks like the duty is permanently stamp on women's shoulder. Yes, I agree that wives have to entertain the husband, but don't enslave them. You both can work together to do house chores, cooking and gardening, isn't that sweet? I believe that's good enough for women, men don't have to try so hard to win over women's heart with promises which they don't even know if they can do them.

Okay, so let see another problem with the so-called women's duty:
Now that they are allowed to further their studies, some parents are just so reluctant to let their daughters to decide their on their own lives. Some opt to study as far as they could, to achieve their dream. Some too, opt not to just study but also would like to have families while they are studying. Well of course, parents will be more than happy to let their daughters to study and succeed in life, but now they see marriage within the study time as a problem. They thought marriage will deviate their daughters from the route of success. It is true to some extend, but why doubt your daughters' potential if they can have pretty good handle on study and social life?Isn't this ironic when you set women free to be educated, but you pretty much refrain them from thinking the best way to live their life?

There's nothing impossible in life, it is just I am possible!
You know your kids well, you raised them good, believe in them! If you think they are just blinded by the false hope and deceiving world, tell them the truth, stop them from ruining their life. However, if you know they are capable on handling both 2 different sides of world, why stop them? why demotivating them? Yes, education is important, but what they feel about life is important too.

So yes, women are not just belajar, but they masuk dapur too and these go together!

I wrote too much today and here I put the end to my post today.

Disclaimer:
Whatever I wrote today does not reflect my life story. This is based on what I heard, what I see.

Wallahu'alam.

Setegas-tegas Seorang Lelaki

Bismillah,

2:45 pm (Thursday, Malaysia)

11:45 pm (Wednesday, Arizona)

Seorang lagi ahli keluarga kami dijemput ilahi, innalillah, wainna ilahi rajiun. Beliau adalah nenek kandung saya sendiri, ibu kepada ayah saya. Semoga Allah ampunkan segala dosa nenek (embah dalam bahasa jawanya) dan semoga embah ditempatkan dalam kalangan orang-orang yang beriman. Ameen...

Sayu dengar suara ayah dihujung talian tadi, setegas-tegas seorang lelaki, tumpah juga air matanya apabila orang yang paling disayang, yang berjasa besar, mendidik, melahirkan dan segala-galanya telah meninggalkan dia dan kembali kepada Sang Pencipta yang lebih kasih pada hamba-hambaNya. Ya Allah, berilah dia ketabahan...

Buat mereka yang masih punya ibubapa, hargailah, sayangilah mereka. Sesibuk manapun kita dengan hal2 dunia (pelajaran, kerja dan sebagainya), luangkanlah seminit dua melefon ke rumah, bertanya khabar. Itu sudah cukup menyenangkan hati ibubapa apabila anak-anak yang mereka susah payah besarkan sentiasa mengingati mereka.

"Dalam setiap pertemuan itu sudah tercatat satu perpisahan yang pasti"

Semoga ketemu lagi embah, maafkan Zati tak dapat balik jenguk embah ;( 

Semoga ketemu di Jannah,

Biiznillah...

Sept 20th 2012

Syawwal 4th 1433H

Intention

Bismillah,

Look at the tallest tree among the rest of those. Isn't it really cool? Exciting? When you are actually one step ahead of the others. But watch for the later consequences. You might well appreciate the gift and use it wisely or it might devastate your imaan. Watch out for "Takbur" guys!.

It's all depends on our intention,
We will be what our heart desires.

mamak vs. bbq

Bismillah,

(They said) Watching football (US soccer) in Malaysia is a phenomenon. Really? Just look at how many people out there occupying mamak's stalls during the day of any big games. Not just that, they (regardless any ages) will gather with most of their friends and shout out loud in zealous tone to show their support to their favorite football club. Very often, mamak's will have this kind of big screen and superb audio system just to attract their customers to come and eat roti canai while watching their favorite games (WWF pun iye ke?). Well, that's just my imagination, really. I grew up not knowing how's hilarious it could be at mamak's late at night. The only reason is dads prefers malay restaurant or mom's home cooking. So, I basically exaggerate whatever I saw on the TV :D 

There's one day my roommate and I went our for dinner because we have no idea what to cook anymore. Trust me, you'll get to some point that you just need a fresher air outside of your apartment and have someone else cooking for you. We went across the university parking garage and surprisingly there's a lot of canopy near the stadium area. Guess what?? ada games rupanya! Oklahoma vs. Arizona. No wonder jalan jammmm. What was really catching my attention here: though they couldn't get into the stadium, they camped outside, had bbq with their family and install a big screen to watch the live match! superb! Pergi restaurant, kosong! tak ada orang even kat situ ada screen besaq.

Okay, let's try to compare how these two different cultures express out their joy and excitement on something they really passionate about:

mamak dudes

sadly, takde pictures on the super bbq tu T_T

Anyways, you'll get roughly the basic idea the difference in the way they "participate" in such games kan? Personally, I will prefer bbq with family, sebab: this insyaAllah will strengthen your relationship with your family, by spending your good times with them. I wonder kalau kat my own country ada ceramah agama, mesti orang ramai berpusu-pusu datang and if they don't get seats, they'll just camp outside and bring their family too. Terjadi tak? ada kot...(oh yes, ceramah Ust Azhar Idrus - another phenomenon!) just look at how zealous these people are when screaming for their favorite football/soccer team kan? the passion should also apply to when you are listening to your favorite ceramah (if you haven't gotten one, do so!) 

so, it is not just mamak vs bbq, 

not just football vs. soccer 

not just mentor vs bintang rtm (eh?)

not just any other kinds of worldly entertainment,

but also

your passion for dunya vs the akhirah

make some more rooms for your akhirah contentment peeps!!

Wallahu'alam.